When Life Feels Like It's Crashing Down: How to Shift from Overwhelm to Empowerment
Have you ever opened a cabinet door expecting to grab what you need—only for everything inside to come crashing down?
Life can feel like that sometimes. You're moving through your routine, and suddenly—💥 BAM—one thing after another starts piling on. It feels impossible to keep up, like everything is falling apart at once.
So, what do you do? How do you handle it? Where do you even start?
Recognizing the Automatic Response
Recently, I've been navigating a very challenging season—facing my mother-in-law's sudden terminal diagnosis and being with her through that, while also supporting a dear friend in crisis.
In the past, my automatic response would have been to take it all on—carrying the weight of it, feeling anxious, frantic, and overwhelmed. Maybe you can relate? That instinct to hold everything together, to manage the unmanageable.
The moment life throws too much at us, we slip into autopilot—reverting to old patterns of stress, panic, or shutting down. We feel like we have to figure it all out, to be strong for everyone, to push through.
But this time, I noticed something different.
Shifting the Response
I caught my old pattern. I recognized the subconscious response—not just in my thoughts, but in my body.
Even though my mind was handling the stress differently, my body still wanted to react the way it always had—tense, overwhelmed, preparing for fight or flight. That familiar surge of stress was there, but I paused and reminded myself:
✅ I don’t have to carry it all alone.
✅ I can ask for support—from God, my inner wisdom, or the people I trust.
✅ I can pause, reframe, and shift my response.
✅ I can notice how I am speaking to myself in these moments.
Instead of saying,
"This is too much. I can’t do this,"
I shifted to,
"I can take this one moment at a time. I am supported."
Instead of feeling powerless, I felt grounded. Instead of panic, I felt peace. And that is empowering.
I let myself cry. I let myself feel. And then, I reminded my body that it was safe, that I was in control of my response, and that I had the tools to move through this moment.
How You Can Shift Your Own Reactions
If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed—whether by your own struggles or while supporting someone you love—know this: you can shift how you respond.
Your body may default to stress, but you can train it to find calm in the storm. You can learn to move out of survival mode and into a place of peace, even in the hardest moments.
Here’s where to start:
💡 Pause and Notice – What is your automatic reaction? Do you feel it in your body—tightness, racing thoughts, holding your breath?
💡 Breathe and Reframe – What would your wisest, most compassionate self say in this moment?
💡 Ground Yourself – Place a hand on your heart, feel your feet on the floor, and remind yourself: I am safe, I am supported, I can move through this.
💡 Reach for Support – Whether it’s faith, intuition, or trusted people—lean into the support available to you.
💡 Reprogram Your Response – Shift the story you tell yourself about stress, struggle, and your ability to handle it.
Take the Next Step
If you're ready to start shifting these subconscious patterns and step into empowerment, I've created a Reflection & Empowerment Guide to help you begin.
If you feel stuck, lost, or unsure how to move forward, know that you don’t have to navigate it alone. This is a place to start, and if you're ready to go deeper, I invite you to reach out for support.
Life’s challenges don’t have to consume you. You are stronger than you think, and support is here when you need it.
With care,
Sabrina Perez